This Mother’s Day, consider giving something more meaningful than flowers or brunch reservations. What if, instead, you gave the gift of peace of mind?
Having an open, thoughtful conversation with your mom—or a mother-figure in your life—about her wishes and legacy might feel unconventional. But it’s one of the most caring and empowering gifts you can offer. While it may feel a little awkward at first, starting the conversation about estate planning is an act of love and respect.
In this guide, you’ll find gentle ways to approach the topic, helpful prompts to get you started, and resources to support the process. A successful conversation can lead to more than just a plan—it can bring clarity, connection, and a shared sense of comfort about the future.
It’s Time to Talk With Mom
It’s never easy to talk about end-of-life planning. But bringing it up with your mom—while she’s still able to share her wishes—is one of the most important things you can do.
Even if she’s never mentioned it, that doesn’t mean she hasn’t thought about it. In fact, she might be waiting for you to bring it up. These conversations can feel emotional, even awkward—but they’re ultimately acts of love.
Without a plan in place, your family could face probate court, unexpected expenses, and difficult decisions at the worst possible time. Being proactive now means less stress later—for everyone.
Start by asking simple, thoughtful questions:
How would you want your assets to be handled?
Who should help carry out your wishes?
What matters most to you?
Opening this dialogue shows your care. And it gives your mom a chance to shape her legacy on her terms.
It’s the right thing to do. The loving thing to do. And you don’t have to figure it out alone—we’re here to help you navigate every step.
Tips for Starting the Conversation With Mom
Talking to your mom about estate planning might feel like unfamiliar territory, but it’s one of the most meaningful ways you can show support. Helping her take this step now can bring peace of mind—for both of you.
Mother’s Day can be a beautiful time to start the conversation. After the celebrations wind down, consider sharing a few cherished memories, then gently shift toward her wishes for the future. You don’t need to have all the answers—just a kind heart, a listening ear, and a willingness to help.
Every family is different, and every mom is unique. But there are a few things that can help make this conversation go more smoothly:
Be positive and patient. Let her take the lead when she’s ready.
Reinforce that this is her plan—designed around her values and vision.
Ask open questions, take notes, and invite others into the process only when appropriate.
Emphasize that creating a plan now means less stress later for those she loves most.
It’s not about pressure—it’s about preparation. Avoid diving into the scary “what ifs” or listing the risks of probate. Instead, focus on the benefits of being organized, staying in control, and knowing everything is in place.
Want to learn more about how to approach the conversation? Read our guide.
Give the Gift of Guidance
Helping your mom set up an estate plan might be one of the most impactful gifts you ever give her. You’re not just organizing documents—you’re giving her confidence that her wishes will be honored and her legacy protected.
From deciding how she wants her assets handled to choosing who will help carry out her wishes, you can be by her side every step of the way. And if you’re not sure where to start, Trust & Will is here to help. Our easy, guided platform offers state-specific, attorney-approved documents, making the process simpler and less overwhelming for both of you.
This Mother’s Day, go beyond the usual card or bouquet. Give your mom the gift of clarity, confidence, and control. Support her in creating a plan that reflects who she is—and everything she’s built.
At Trust & Will, we keep things simple. You can create a fully customizable, state-specific estate plan from the comfort of your own home. Take our free quiz to see where you should get started, or compare our different estate planning and settlement options today!
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