This Father’s Day, consider giving something more lasting than a tie or a round of golf. What if, instead, you gave the gift of peace of mind?
Having an honest, compassionate conversation with your dad—or a father figure in your life—about his wishes and legacy might seem unconventional. But it’s one of the most caring and impactful gifts you can offer. Estate planning isn't just about documents—it’s about clarity, care, and confidence for the future.
Whether it’s your dad, stepdad, adoptive dad, grandpa, or a beloved mentor who’s filled a fatherly role, this guide offers simple, supportive ways to start the conversation. You’ll find helpful prompts, thoughtful tips, and resources to make the process easier.
It’s time to talk with Dad. He deserves it.
Why It’s Worth Having the Conversation
Bringing up estate planning with your dad might feel daunting, but it’s an act of deep respect and love. It gives him the opportunity to articulate what matters most—on his own terms.
Even if he hasn’t said anything, he’s probably thought about it. He might just be waiting for the right moment—or the right person—to bring it up. And by doing so, you’re helping him take control of his legacy.
Without a plan, families often face unnecessary stress, court proceedings, and difficult decisions during an already emotional time. Planning ahead can ease those burdens and ensure his wishes are honored exactly as he intends.
Try starting with gentle, open-ended questions:
What matters most to you when you think about the future?
Is there someone you trust to help carry out your wishes?
How would you like your legacy to be remembered?
These questions aren't just logistical—they’re meaningful. They open the door for connection and understanding. And they help your dad create a plan that reflects who he is and what he values most.
Tips for Starting the Conversation With Dad
Father’s Day is a great opportunity to start the conversation. Once the celebration winds down and the grill cools off, consider sharing a memory or story that highlights how much he means to you. Then, gently pivot toward a conversation about his plans for the future.
You don’t need to have all the answers. Just bring a sense of care, curiosity, and willingness to listen.
Here are a few ways to make the conversation more comfortable:
Stay positive and patient. Let him guide the pace.
Reassure him. This is about his plan—centered on his wishes.
Avoid pressure. Focus on the peace of mind that comes with being prepared.
Offer support. Let him know you’ll be there every step of the way.
Remember, every dad is different. Whether he’s traditional, modern, cautious, or carefree—what he needs most is a plan that’s tailored to him. Your role? Just help him get started.
Give the Gift of Guidance
Helping your dad create an estate plan might be one of the most meaningful gifts you ever give him. You’re not just checking a box—you’re giving him confidence that the people he loves and the legacy he’s built will be protected.
From designating guardianship and making healthcare decisions, to determining how his assets should be handled, you can help him navigate each decision with care.
And you don’t have to do it alone. Trust & Will offers a simple, step-by-step platform that makes estate planning accessible and stress-free. Our documents are attorney-approved and customized to your state, so everything is legally sound—and easy to understand.
This Father’s Day, go beyond the usual tools and trinkets. Give your dad the clarity, confidence, and comfort that comes with having a plan in place. Help him take this step—because his legacy matters.
At Trust & Will, we keep things simple. You can create a fully customizable, state-specific estate plan from the comfort of your own home. Take our free quiz to see where you should get started, or compare our different estate planning and settlement options today!
Is there a question here we didn’t answer? Browse more topics in our learn center, visit our Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) page, or chat with our member support!
Trust & Will is an online service providing legal forms and information. We are not a law firm and we do not provide legal advice.
Share this article